The absence of a father is not just an empty chair at the table. It is the absence of a mirror in which a boy could look at himself and recognize: who am I as a man? What does strength mean? How to express anger without hurting? How to love without losing yourself? Without this reflection, he grows up in chaos, trying to build masculinity from fragments - overheard sentences, films, cultural whispers.Underneath all this, there is often fear, deep loneliness and a sense of being insufficient. This inner conviction that "something is wrong with me", that I do not deserve love, respect, recognition - and it is this that becomes the silent companion of every step in adulthood.Sometimes the father was physically present, but emotionally unavailable - silent, cold, withdrawn.It also happens that the father withdrew not because he did not want to love, but because he himself was hurt and weakened - especially when his partner was dominant, emotionally overwhelming, and sometimes even castrating his masculinity.In such dynamics, the man - the father - had no space to express himself as a man. Pushed into the role of a passive observer, he began to disappear. He was unable to stand by his son, because he himself felt powerless against the energy of his partner. Such a father often escaped into work, silence, resignation - until he became a shadow of himself.And although he was there, the boy did not really have him - he did not feel his strength, guidance, support. He only felt his absence and weakness, which he did not understand.Other times, the father became explosive, strict, punishing. Behind this roughness, however, his own inner shadow was often hidden - a man who had not experienced love and acceptance himself, who carried fear, shame and unexperienced pain. He was often brought up in an atmosphere of severity, lack of closeness, suppression of emotions. He had no access to his own feelings, because no one taught him how - and in the relationship with his family he was unable to be emotionally present, because he himself did not know how. His withdrawal or aggression were not so much a choice as a defensive reaction of a man who had never experienced safe fatherhood or built contact with his own sensitivity. And it was this absence that hurt the most — the lack of a look, a touch, a confirmation. The lack of a father who says, "I'm proud of you. You can count on me."Such a boy grows up, but does not fully become a man. Inside him there is still a quiet, undervalued boy who has been silent for years because no one listened to his voice.He only wanted someone to really see him — without expectations, without conditions. For someone to say, "You are important. You can feel. You can be yourself." He longed not for perfection, but for acceptance — just as he is.And although his body has grown up, he is still there, hidden behind a mask of strength, indifference or success.In reality, he is still waiting for someone to say, "You don't have to prove anything anymore. You are enough."In adulthood, these wounds take on different forms.A man may have difficulty with a sense of self-worth, with action, with expressing himself.He may be overly sensitive to his partner's emotions, dependent on her acceptance, deprived of internal support.He may be afraid of conflict, rejection, be emotionally unstable or, on the contrary — distant, frozen.He may also experience difficulties in creating healthy relationships - on the one hand, he desires closeness, on the other, he does not trust it and runs away from it.You do not emerge from such a story without a trace. Such a boy - now an adult man - may have difficulty setting boundaries, feeling his "yes" and "no".He often falls into the trap of constantly proving his value - through work, appearance, acquisition. Or he runs away - he withdraws from relationships, emotions, life. Because no one has shown him that you can be yourself and be safe.Regaining masculine energy is a return to the center of yourself.
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